Self-esteem is life-giving and energizing. But too much self-regard can also take possession of us, causing us to look inward instead of outward, to be overly concerned with our needs rather than the needs of others, to think we control our life when God actually controls it.
As difficult as losing close friends is, it reminds us of the immeasurable value of friendship. My grandfather would say if you come to the end life with one good friend, you’re blessed.
No one enjoys criticism, but consider 'fraternal correction,' which is among the qualities of love cited by St. Aquinas. It doesn't look too merciful at first glance, says Father Eugene Hemrick, but the goal is extremely heartening: to help us live a more prudent, wise and orderly life.